What Does It Mean to Become a Radiant Woman? | 005

You're listening to the Sacred She Reset podcast.

If you're a woman in midlife who's done doing this alone and

ready for real conversations, real wisdom, and real radiance,

you're exactly where you need to be. I'm your host Sharia Shana.

Your path to radiance starts here. Welcome back to the Sacred

She Reset, awakening your radiant wisdom. I'm Sharia

Shani, your host, and I am so excited to be with you again.

Over the first four episodes, we're on our fifth now. I've

been sharing about the journey that's brought me here.

So, if you've been following along, I shared with you about

the years where my body felt like it was being managed rather

than understood, and then the turning point I reached where I

had to start learning how to listen, and then I shared with

you there about the framework that came out of that big

journey of the turning point and all the surgeries and all the

things that have been happening in my life, and the framework

that came out of that-the four pillars of radiance-that helped

me through and supported me through as I watched these

patterns and what I learned, and we also dived deeper into when

when we when we have this belief, this internal belief

around saying I've tried everything and nothing works for

me, and then also the external pressures that keep us saying

that there's no room for me. So we dived into a little bit about

time and and money there as well in the last episode, and so in

all of those we've been shifting the narrative and just having

this little journey with ourselves to unlock what might

be sitting deeper deeper in there and what we can learn.

But today I want to look forward. I want to look speaking

to the woman waiting beyond survival, and she's not a

perfect woman, and she's definitely not endlessly

positive. She's not a she's not a woman that solved every

problem and balanced every hormone and healed every wound

and color coded her entire life before breakfast. There's none

of that going on here today. I want to speak about the radiant

woman and what it means to be radiant, and this is the woman

who no longer is willing to disappear from herself. And so,

what I want to just recap and reframe from and remember from

the past episodes is from my story. I really would like you

to remember your body is not the interruption. She is a part of

the invitation. From the four pillars, I would love you to

remember you are a whole woman. Your physical health, emotions,

joy, relationships, voice, and sense of meaning are connected.

And from our conversation around self trust, I'd love you to

you do not have to believe in the entire path. You

need only remain in relationship with yourself as you take the

next honest step, and then from our conversation about time and

money, I'd love you to remember your needs are not the

disposable part of your life. You are not selfish for

requiring space. You are human. So let's push this out and look

at look at a bigger vision here. Take a wider view, and so my

vision is for women to stop reaching midlife believing their

most vital years are behind them. I want us to really change

that story and start looking at it through through a different

lens, and for too long, we as women we have been taught to

view aging primarily through loss, and so it's that loss of

beauty, loss of youth, fidelity, energy, desirability. But then

remember that midlife also brings discernment, clarity,

courage, creativity, freedom, leadership, a deep relationship

with truth, the willingness to stop negotiating with what no

longer fits, and as I know, and as some of you know, a lot of

you know depends where you are on your journey. Menopause can

be physically and emotionally challenging, and it's different

for all of us. It deserves appropriate support and honest

conversation, and I dive into all of this in my my recently

released book, Sacred She Reset. But it. Is not proof that women,

that us as women, that our life force is disappearing. Like

where's where's the data on that? Sometimes it is the moment

when everything she has suppressed, postponed, or

tolerated begins asking to be acknowledged. This is not a

decline.

This is an awakening. So who who is the radiant woman? The

radiate the radiant woman is not a woman who never struggles.

That's that's an impossible, unsustainable achievement. She

is a woman who nong no longer abandons herself when struggle

arrives. She knows how to pause. She notices when her body is

whispering. She allows herself to ask for support. She does not

measure strength only by how much she can endure. She speaks

with great honesty. She's learning not to apologize for

every need, boundary, opinion, or change of heart. She

understands that a boundary is not a wall against love. It is

often what allows it. It is often what allows love to remain

honest. She makes decisions from self-trust rather than constant

approval seeking, and she may still feel fear, but fear is no

longer the only voice at the table.

She allows joy to matter, not only once the work is finished,

not only when everything else is happy, now she creates, she

travels, she rests, leads, learns, loves, begins again. She

also understands that menopause is not one universal experience.

She listens to her own body rather than measuring herself

against another woman's woman's timeline. She recognizes that

her wisdom has been shaped by everything she has lived. Her

experience is not baggage she must hide. It is Material,

medicine, leadership, legacy. So let's dive into a little bit

about relationships. The radiant woman begins changing how she

participates in relationships. She no longer confuses love with

self erasure. She does not automatically carry the entire

emotional atmosphere. She becomes curious about where she

has overfunctioned, where she has said yes while meaning no,

where she has protected others from the consequences of their

own choices. This does not mean she becomes cold. It means her

love becomes more truthful. She learns that belonging should not

require abandoning herself, and when it comes to work and

purpose, she also reconsiders her relationship with work.

Perhaps she still has enormous ambition.

Perhaps she wants to build, create, contribute, and lead.

Radiance is not asking her to become smaller. It is asking her

to stop sacrificing herself to prove that she is powerful. She

begins building success that includes her well-being. She

questions the idea that rest makes her less committed. She

recognizes that her work can emerge from rhythm rather than

constant urgency. Midlife may ask her to change careers, begin

a business, write a book, launch a podcast, return to art,

travel, teach, mentor, or simply redefine what is meaningful.

What a meaningful life looks like. There is no single correct

expression of becoming. Creativity and voice. Many women

arrive in midlife with a voice that has been carefully edited.

They have learned how to speak in ways that keep the room

comfortable, how to soften, qualify, apologize, avoid

appearing too demanding, emotional, ambitious, or

visible, the radiant woman begins reclaiming expression.

She sings, she writes, speaks, shares her story, says what says

what she means, allows herself to be witnessed, not because

every. Things she says will be perfect because silence is no

longer the price she is willing to pay for belonging. The

movement behind sacred she reset.

This podcast you're listening to today is a part of a much bigger

vision, a vision where women in midlife do not have to navigate

these changes alone. Where conversations about menopause

include whole women, where health includes body wisdom,

healing includes compassion, happiness includes joy and

expression, heart includes boundaries, belonging, and

sacred connection. I want sacred Shi reset to become a gathering

place, a place where lived experience matters, where

experts can share wisdom without replacing the listener's inner

authority, where women hear stories that help them recognize

themselves, where we can speak honestly about grief, desire,

identity, aging, relationships, creativity, purpose in the body,

and where no woman is asking to become a polished version of

herself before she is allowed to belong. So, what's next? In the

episodes ahead, we will explore why rest does not always create

restoration. How capable women become trapped in chronic

self-override. Menopause and the loss or recovery of identity.

The nervous system and the body's need for safety.

Boundaries without guilt. Voice and self-expression. Joy as a

form of alignment. Joy, joy, joy. Relationships in

midlife-that's a really good one. I can't wait for that.

Creativity, purpose, and reinvention. Embodied and

holistic practices to help women return to themselves.

We will hear solo episodes from me, conversations with

practitioners, teachers, and experts, and stories from women

who are living through their own becoming. Some episodes will

give you information, some will give you language, some will

give you practices, and some may simply remind you that you are

not the only woman asking these questions. So my invitation to

this podcast is not asking you to become someone

else. It is inviting you to stop becoming less of yourself. You

do not need to wait until you have more energy, more

confidence, more clarity, more time. You begin where you are.

Perhaps today, becoming looks like rest. Tomorrow it may look

like speaking. Next month it may look like leaving something

behind. There is no race. There is no perfect timeline. There is

only the relationship you build with the woman you are now.

So my reflection for you today, beautiful woman, I'd love you to

Who am I becoming when I no longer organize my

life around self-abandonment? How do you speak? How? What do

you? What do you tolerate? What do you protect? What brings you

alive? What do you know now that you could not have known 20

years ago? Like that's a that's a big one. Like if I look back

on where I was in my 20s, you do not just need to see her

completely. Perhaps you only sense her. That is enough.

Radiance is revealed before it is truly understood. And so

today, ladies, this is a shout out to join me in the community

in the sacred sea reset circle, and I'd love you to continue

following this journey with the. I've got some amazing interviews

lined up, some beautiful people coming in that you are just

going to love and enjoy so much. And I would love it if you just

share in the comments or in the circle, if you're feeling brave,

come along and join us this summer. Chair, I will put

everything in the show notes as always. And just remember, it is

not too late. You are not disappearing. You are standing

at the threshold of a life that asks you to belong to yourself

more fully. Yet you are not falling apart. You are becoming,

and your radiance starts here. Bye for now.